Are you showing your close ones your latest version? Might sound like a funny question, but it’s a very important one. After 6 months away from my boyfriend, reconnecting with him turned out to be a challenge with a very precious gem of insight at its core. I found out that our bodies store patterns in the way they move, feel and behave around those who are closest to us. Those patterns represent parts of us that remain frozen in time and triggered by the presence of someone we love, no matter how much we’ve changed outside of that relationship.

It’s the shadow side of our need for safety and comfort – it can make us feel stuck, not able to be our current self and express our truth with that person that over time can build resentment and disconnect us from one another. Therefore, I believe it’s good to check with ourselves from time to time, bring awareness to any frozen parts in the ways we relate our partners, parents and close friends and make a conscious choice to show our ‘latest self’ to them. Eventually, it’s about feeling free to express and be loved as we are, rather than as we were. And moving forward and growing together.

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About Lessons in Paradise

I believe we already are in paradise, regardless of where we are and what’s going on in our lives. I believe life is a journey towards becoming aware of this and enjoying as much of it as we can in the limited amount of time we have here. The ‘Lessons in Paradise’ vlog is the space where I share my process of shedding patterns and beliefs that obstruct our view in order to replace them with presence, awe and wonder. It’s also my invitation to you – an invitation to connect and journey together by sharing what we are going through and helping each other see through to the greatest expression of ourselves. Drop me a line or comment below or on youtube – I’d love to hear how what I’m sharing relates to your experience.


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