Somebody wise once said “This life isn’t happening to you, it’s happening for you.” I heard it some years ago in a powerful speech Jim Carrey delivered, but it’s only recently that it has fully sunk into my actual experience of life. It corresponded to a shift of consciousness that started around the time I shot my previous forest floor video. Many friends wrote to tell me how much bliss I radiated onto their screens. So I thought of sharing a little bit more about how that has unfolded for me.
Imagine going through your day like Alice in Wonderland. Everything around you is soooo beautiful, mysterious, supportive that you can look at a tree and burst into tears of joy and happiness. You go to bed feeling extreme wonder and gratitude for another day of life and wake up super excited and passionate about another day in which you get to create your heart’s work from that blissful space, live it, share it with others. It’s like a spiral going up, in which you keep getting signs that say:
‘Hey, you are on a good track. Here’s another gift.’
The gifts come in the shape of anything from a funny little story your head creates out of a bunch of cups standing on a cupboard that look like they are talking to each other, a rose from a stranger in the park, finding 5$ or a pencil for the gratitude letter you wanted to write on the sidewalk, a magical portal you imagine and journey through in the forest to answer an important question, all the way to the amazing passion and insight you keep getting as you dive deeper into a new project and the beautiful new opportunities that keep arising for working with people you love. And it keeps going up and up!
So how do we cultivate such a state? Just like everything else, it’s a matter of practice. A practice of focusing on what works and training our brains to look for it, based on a choice we make to believe that the world is happening for us, not to us. We practice and it’s hard and we practice and one day something switches and all of a sudden everything is like magic! The world becomes mysterious, awesome, beautiful, like a movie that’s designed especially for us that keeps on unfolding and surprising us and that we get to consciously co-create.
So to wrap this up – you can make a CHOICE to feel that this world is happening to you or for you. In the former case there will be things and people that make you happy or upset you, there will be moments when it’s boring or when you are anxious what’s going to happen. In the latter case, you are going to look for the beauty, the mystery, the ways life is supporting you even if it’s a harder time you are going through. Sure, it takes time – depending on where you currently stand, it can be weeks, months, years for this to sink in… But I can promise you that if you choose to follow this path and practice keeping your focus on how life is working in your favour, there will come a moment when something will just switch. And the world is never going to be the same – in the way it FEELs to go through it, as well as the actual results you see on your way to your dreams.
PS If you are interested in coaching to facilitate this kind of transformation in life, I’ll be happy to explore ways for us to work together. Let’s grab a cup of coffee (online or offline) where you can experience a little bit of it for free to see whether and how it can support you in your journey. I am also currently working on a new experimental Core Purpose & Soul Power program, which I am going to launch at a much lower price point – hit me up if you are interested in joining.
About Lessons in Paradise
I believe we already are in paradise, regardless of where we are and what’s going on in our lives. I believe life is a journey towards becoming aware of this and enjoying as much of it as we can in the limited amount of time we have here. The ‘Lessons in Paradise’ vlog is the space where I share my process of shedding patterns and beliefs that obstruct our view in order to replace them with presence, awe and wonder. It’s also my invitation to you – an invitation to connect and journey together by sharing what we are going through and helping each other see through to the greatest expression of ourselves. Subscribe to my youtube channel and be the first to know when I release a new video.